Meet Kelly: Change YOUR Circumstances

Q: Do you consider yourself an I'mPossible Mom?  If so, why is it so important?

A:  I do believe I am an I'mPossible Mom.  Though my 2 children are grown I am currently the caregiver of a 3yr old.
While my children were growing, my goal was to make sure they had a good, "fun", childhood. Coming from a dysfunctional family I was determined to make sure theirs was happier.  I am very fortunate that my husband and I agreed I would not have to work and would raise our children, so my personal possible in the "I'mPossible Mom" was exactly what I was doing-exploring, creating, teaching, playing, observing, and sharing in their lives.  While I do the same things with the 3yr old I have also become more diligent about my fitness and health.  Crossfit and mountain biking are a big part of my life that I am not willing to give up.  That means some mornings she is dropped off at the early Crossfit class and then we also go to the afternoon class. 

Q: What inspired you to begin making yourself possible?

A: Watching people I love become trapped by their inability to change their circumstances, to become stuck in their day-to-day unhappiness has been a motivating factor for me.  They are "too sick", "too unlucky", or "too busy" to take the time to make their own lives better, to be happier.  They can't get past their negatives and see that taking the time for themselves would actually benefit them and their outlook towards life in general. We only have this one life and I choose to enjoy my days, i choose to do the things that make me feel good about who I am and how I feel.

Q: What progress, both physical and mental, have you achieved since you started to dedicate time to yourself?

 A: Mentally I am more capable of adapting to problems that may arise without stressing out.  I used to worry about the "what if?" in life-stressing over things that may or may not happen and things I had no control over.  Taking the time to do things for me, that I enjoy, puts me in a better frame of mind to deal with the real problems when they do happen.  I am better at analyzing the situation and deciding a course of action then moving on.

  Physically for me has been amazing.  Though I have always considered myself active, I have also spent many years trying to hit my "perfect" weight, never really succeeding.  I have never found anything that has helped me achieve the results I have had with Crossfit and clean eating.  I have lost weight (60lbs) and better than that, I am stronger and fitter then I have ever been!  

Q: Is it hard to make yourself possible?  Why or why not?

A: At times it has been hard.  I am definitely a "fixer".  If someone has a problem I tend to allow myself to feel that it is my responsibility to help make their struggles easier.  I have to remind myself that people make their own choices and though I may feel for them, it is not my fault nor my responsibility to fix it for them.  I have let myself become stuck in their problems and lost sight of what I wanted.

Q: By making yourself possible, what message do you believe you are sending to your husband and children?

A:  That it is important to take care of yourself.  Though we share our lives, we are responsible for our own sense of happiness, of well-being and satisfaction, our own health-we cannot make other people do that for us.  Deciding what is important to you and working to achieve your goals will bring those feelings.

Q:  What would you like to say to those moms-that may be having a hard time making themselves possible?

A:  Don't wait for the "perfect" time to start doing what you dream of for yourself.  Start today, rewhatever it is that is important to you, that makes you happy.  Whatever goal or dream you have had but cannot find the time to start, start today.  An hour a day for yourself will bring amazing results and positive changes for you and your loved ones.  So rather then hanging onto regrets or resentments for not having time for you, make it possible, make YOU possible.

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